We have been working with Caleb to start feeding himself more with silverware and using plates and bowls more(instead of just his highchair tray). We finally realized that we were mixing up not being consistent with which hand we choose. When you sit in front of him and use your right hand it’s natural to hand(and use hand over hand teaching) the spoon to his left hand, we didn’t realized that we were doing this. But then sometimes when we would just hand him the spoon we would pick his right hand. Hand/Spoon confusion! We are aware now and purposefully use his right hand. Also we bought some new spoons/forks/plates/bowls which seem to be helping too! He is making great progress with this and feeds himself most of his spoon-able foods like his baby oatmeal breakfast and applesauce.
We also quite consistently give him a bowl of ketchup for dipping. He LOVES to dip anything(after his usual dippers of chicken/hotdogs/fishsticks he will then move on to anything else he can like his whole plum! He is getting to be not AS messy with it, although you can still catch him just dipping his finger for a little extra taste of that yummy red sauce!